Are You Happy With The Relationship You Are In Today?
Have you ever put up a front to your friends and family or to the outside world that your relationship is all good when you know from the depths of your soul that there are problems and conflict? More often than not we tend to have some unexpressed issues or a few painful truths that […]
Are You a Victim or Perpetrator of Abuse?
Do you find relationships challenging at the best of times? When people are under stress they cope in different ways. If really stressed, they can get into fight or flight mode. And whether intentional or not may create abuse in a relationship. Others just might have a habit of abuse that they have learned somewhere […]
A Better Way To Connect in Relationships and Marriage
Do you know there is a better way to connect rather than saying “I understand”? When people are upset or frustrated and are telling someone what is going on and what they are feeling and thinking, I often find people say “I understand…” or something similar to try and make them feel better. I used […]
How Do You Handle Rejection in a Relationship?
I was originally going to write about as rejection being something that we have total control over. That we can not feel rejected. That rejection is something in our mind that we can control. That in the past we may have been rejected and believed we had no control over how we felt, created some […]
Who Controls Your Feelings in Your Relationship?
Have you ever heard someone say to you, “You made me angry.” or “You hurt me.” Or another variation where someone has told you that you made them feel a certain way? Have you said that to someone or felt that way? Lets first ask the question, who controls your feelings? If your answer is […]
What Did You Sign Up For in your Marriage or Relationship?
Can you take a moment and think back to the start of your most recent relationship? What was the attraction like? What was it that attracted to the other person? What excited you? Was there a spark or chemistry between you two? Maybe an instant connection, or a friendship that slowly grew into something more. […]
Knee Jerk Decisions Can Be Dangerous
As I am trying to work this out. I go back and relive the evening. I am visiting a friend in the country. A group of us are sitting around chatting. I mention I have a bit of pain in my body and my friend gets me to lay down. She uses some trigger point […]
Hurt People, Hurt People in Relationships
It’s Friday afternoon and I am sitting at my computer preparing for my Conscious Connection Workshop on Saturday. The phone rings and a woman’s voice on the other end of the phone asks “When is the next available appointment?” I explain, “I don’t book appointments straight away. First we have a 20 – 30 minute […]
Are You Holding Onto Stuff?
My Mum lives on her own in her own house in Rangiora, about 30 minutes north of Christchurch. She has been blessed with pretty good health. The only thing that she takes is a couple of Panadol in the morning to help with a bit of pain in her hip and back as a result […]
Affairs Don’t Ruin Relationships or Marriages
A short while ago I received a private message on Facebook asking if I could write a blog on affairs. The woman said her partner had an ‘emotional affair’. By this she meant it was an affair that did not end up with her partner and the other woman having sex. She was very […]